To really smash approach anxiety, you have to understand why women have bitch shields, and why rejection is nothing personal.

Here’s Zip’s perspective (who is Zip?).

As a woman, I don’t wake up in the morning and pray that some white night does not come rescue me from a paltry existence and sweep me off my feet. However, I don’t wake up in the morning, hoping every guy I meet today will try to get in my pants. Hence, the bitch shield comes in as a way to weed out the losers and get to the guys worth my time.

Sure, I could be nice and give every man equal and fair opportunity to be interviewed for admission to my bed, but I don’t have the time. Plus, it gets old. I’ve fallen victim to a vicious cycle of disinterested behaviour in order to find a man worthy of my interest. It is a routine many women employ as a defence mechanism disguised as an offensive attack.

Why do all the really pretty girls have the biggest bitch shields? Men are visual. Obviously, the hotter the girl, the more likely she’s getting accosted more frequently than a “cute” girl.