When I got into the game over 5 years ago, there were very limited resources for guys wanting to improve their pick-up skills, unlike today where there are tons of blogs, forums, sites, etc.
So, I spent a lot of time trying to work out things for myself. One of the most important techniques I developed was creating a ‘sarging frame’.
Let me explain this more. When you approach and talk to a girl or group (called a set in PUA lingo), first impressions count… and they will always count! So, within the first few minutes of interacting, if you can convey that you are a fun, friendly, confident, interesting guy, your chances of success are exponentially greater than coming across as boring, serious, insecure and nervous.
I’ve the found the most effective way of communicating that positive aura, is to create and develop a sarging frame… and it’s simpler than you think.
First, imagine yourself, in minute detail, as the guy you want to be that can easily approach and talk to women, and comes across as confident, sexy, playful, etc.
Now keep all those details in your head. Next time you go sarging, immediately bring to the front of your mind all the minute details of the guy you were meant to be, then act it out. It does take some practice, but after a short while you’ll be amazed at how fast you can switch to your sarging frame and be much more successful with women because of it Realize, this is what actors do. They create a mental frame based on the character they are playing.
Creating/developing a sarging frame is just one of the many important techniques we delve into in the new, online PUA training portal: PUALife.com
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June 12th, 2008 at 1:41 pm
Brad, I love it! Over the last six months I’ve been approaching with a serious frame, trying to get into deep report from the off… no wonder I got blown out so many times.
June 12th, 2008 at 8:19 pm
Can you share more about this. This is exactly my problem. I open girls with a boring frame, insread of being in C&F frame. Ive signed up on your VIP list Brad. Can you let us know when pualife starts. Thanks.
June 12th, 2008 at 8:51 pm
“but after a short while you’ll be amazed at how fast you can switch to your sarging frame and be much more successful with women because of it”
thats a neat advice. I used a similar technique when I was having some trouble to speak in front of 300 people when I was giving presentations in my company. It does work! For some reason I am a lot more coward when it involves approaching woman, but Im gonna try it the same.
June 12th, 2008 at 10:03 pm
Brad why don’t you tell people to be in the moment. Be in the present, in the now. I suggest you read a book that Mehow reccomended ” The Power Of Now” by Eckarht Tolle. Why play a character that inside your head ? That your mind interacting instead of you being yoursefl. Your playing a role created in your head.
June 12th, 2008 at 10:37 pm
Arnold, it’s about bring out the best in yourself, or working towards it… like personal goals! For instance, “this is how I want to portray myself”.
As for being ‘in the moment’, whatever that means? Are you suggesting you shouldn’t work towards portraying yourself in a better way?
Likwise, your goals start in your head and you work towards them!
June 12th, 2008 at 11:50 pm
Hi.. my english is bad..
but.. is very important for the frame.. when people increase your aura with the mindset for sarging.. it’s increase your frame too.. and is the hb gives IDI’s you can set her in your metaframe..
Daniel_Souza, Brazil.
*17 years old, + - a year studying and pratcing PUA.
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June 13th, 2008 at 7:16 am
Ive been in the moment many times Arnold. It’s not working for me! I need something else that help me improve my frame, and I think Brad’s idea is brilliant. I can now slowly work towrds improving my confidence and being a fun guy.